Ok, here’s the skinny on Surrender. When we decide to lay down the fight, when we allow “what is” to just be, what we areactually doing is relinquishing the micro management of the Universe, that part of us that thinks we know more then the energy that created Earth and Mars!
We get it all mixed up with not following through, with taking action and forging ahead. Yet, there is a big difference between not trying or not acting on our ideas or dreams.
Action is necessary in whatever we choose to do in life, this is true. If you want to write a book, you have to write it! If you want a new job, you have to do the things to bring the job into fruition. If you want to win the lottery, buy the ticket!
Surrender on the other hand not about not “getting out there and getting it done” although that can be a part of surrender, if you are “getting it done” in the state of surrender. Surrender is about showing up in a whole way. It’s all about stopping the small mind or ego from “pushing the river”. Have you tried to push a river lately?
Surrender, is about yielding, It’s about allowing and staying present, it’s about joining with the stuff of the Universe. That energy that creates stars and planets and us that I was just talking about. It’s really about aligning ourselves to ourselves! Our bigger selves that is, our higher selves, our divine selves.
So, surrender isn’t about giving up at all, it is about becoming more of who you are! It’s about allowing ourselves to really get in sync with possibilities that we don’t even know existed.
When we stop trying to work our will, on “making” things happen, we actually move into a greater resource pool! Who knew?
In the land of surrender, getting what we really want, stands a much better chance, than trying to wrestle with our doubts and frustrations and forcing our will onto others or situations.
This doesn’t mean it’s easy to let go! It’s easy to fall into despair and worry and uncertainty when we start to surrender because we think we have to be in control, we think we are being pro-active, being “on top” of things. We have scary thoughts about what will happen if we just let go…which is why, practicingsurrender is such a good plan:)
First, as with anything you have to decide to surrender! Yes, it’s a decision:) Life can force you to surrender, but why wait?
Once you decide, then you can expect to find all your worries and fears to take center stage! Yea! Happy days…Which is why it’s good to be ready with some tools to help you.
Here are some tools I personally use, the easiest and quickest way I have found to slow down.
I start with my breath. Are you holding your breath? I do. I do it when I am in the “pushing the river” mode,this is what I do:
Take a slow breath in through your mouth and out through your nose. Do this as many times as it takes, until you feel yourself calming. Once I can feel myself calming, the next thing I do is slow down my body.
I’m a brisk walker, I motor along at a fast clip, I’ve got places to go! People to see! Things are happening baby!! So, as you might think, slowing down is not natural for me! But guess what? It works! I slow down my breathing, I slow down my breathing, I slow down my movements, I slow, I slow and then the next thing you know, I’ve slowed down my tiny mind… when I have stopped cruising around at a hundred miles an hour in my head and in life, I can begin to let it all go.
The stress, the worry, the projection into tomorrow…sometimes I even say out loud; ” I surrender”. Sometimes I use Ho’oponopono;
“I’m Sorry. Please Forgive Me. I Love You. Thank You”. Sometimes, I say the prayer of St. Francis of Assisi. Sometimes I tell myself that “this to shall pass”. Sometimes I have a good cry. Sometimes I go to Yoga. Sometimes, I go for a big walk and breathe and focus on what is right in front of me, becoming mindful as I walk. Sometimes, I have to say, I do all of it and I still am holding on to an undercurrent of edgy anxiety. However, I promise you, the more I stay with it, the more you stay with it, eventually surrender happens, it kicks in. It works! I move into the flow, into the greater, clearer, part of myself, my day is softer, my way in the world is softer, I am more connected and then…that’s when the magic starts to happen…:)
Try it. You’ll like it:)